Ph.D. Psychologist

No one chooses to be born in an unhealthy family.  School or society does not prepare anyone to survive in this type of background, such as alcoholic families. 

Consider using this as an opportunity to make yourself healthier by reaching out for professional psychological services.  It is never too late. 

There is a saying that you do not fail until you stop trying. 

What are some of the common characteristics experienced by adults growing up in alcoholic homes?

1.  Unsure what "normal" family life is

Adults who grew up in a home that was full of arguments, unpredictibility, etc; they may see chaos as part of the "normal" life.  As they enter into adulthood,  they may find themselves confused in how to operate a "normal" and "stabilized" family life. 

2. Overcritical of self

Adults growing up with a chaotic family background may find themselves to be self critical.  They do not see their positive stregnths, but flaws.  They do not accept compliments from others well.  They see what is "missing". 

3. Self-doubt

This originates from an unstable family background.  Adults who had a childhood being deprived of guidance and nurture due to parents' preoccupation with personal problems; they may be lack of self-assurance.  They may look for repeated and constant affirmation in relationships.  This can be unhealthy depending on the nature of the relationships.

There are other characteristics of adults who grew up in alcoholics homes.  If you find your life struggling with relationship problems due to this type of family background, and you desire for an improvement, please do contact me for assistance.

To stop trying is to stop living.

Dr. So-Lloyd, "There is a seriousness about life in me.  When I was young, I often reminded myself that there was only one life to live.  I want to live to its fullest."